Counselling + Consulting
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These are some of the most common questions I am asked a sex therapist in Toronto. Contrary to popular belief, sex therapy is not composed of two adults sitting across from one another talking about sex all day. I’ve always that sounded a lot more like a lopsided Tinder date than it does a therapy session (no shade to Tinder).
So, what can you expect in a sex therapy session? Well, if I’m being completely honest it’s pretty similar to what you can expect out of any therapy session: a place to sit and process what’s going on for you in a nonjudgmental environment.
Seeing a sex therapist simply means talking about sex is not off-limits. Sex therapy is a place where discussing troubles around sexuality and intimacy is just as normal as talking about workplace stress, or the toast you burnt earlier this morning.
Sometimes sexuality shows up as a hobby, a lifestyle, or as an element of your work. And because talking about intimacy is so taboo, and is so often written off, sometimes we just need a place where those barriers don’t exist. The elimination of judgement and barriers. That is what you can expect when working with a sex therapist.
If you’re hoping to talk about your sex life, or the lack of a sex life, this is the place for you. Whether you want to keep it light and talk about the intricacies of dating, kink, rope, play partners, and sexuality. Or perhaps you want to dive deeper to explore the nuances of polyamory, feelings of loneliness or relationship abandonment, or traumas that that still stick with you. This is a place where we can hold space for it all.
Before we move forward, if you’re struggling with pain with sex, premature ejaculation, decreased penis/vagina sensitivity, or any other physical concerns related to intimacy, please connect with your doctor as soon as possible.
Sex therapy may help with those concerns, but it’s important we rule out any biological or physiological contributing factors to make sure you’re getting the full support you deserve.
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Similar to things like social connection and emotional security, sex is a basic element of human functioning. A healthy relationship with sex boosts our self-esteem. The research undoubtedly shows us sex-based-pleasure is linked to lower rates of depression, increases in happiness, and even improvements within the immune system. And lest we forget that “sex” doesn’t just refer to stereotypical, mononormative penetrative pleasure – sex and intimacy is so much bigger than that.
Whether we’re looking at self-play, play with others, or simply the practice of accepting ourselves in our bodies – intimate connections come in all shapes and sizes. Intimacy allows us to connect with those feel-good-hormones in the body.
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Let’s begin a journey that empowers you to understand and appreciate your body without shame. That might mean reacquainting with yourself postpartum, as you age, or even as you heal from trauma. We will work together to unpack what brought you here and what you are looking for. We will have conversations around sexuality and how to increase your pleasure experience.
Sexual wellness looks so different for everybody. It can become so easy to blame ourselves when we are feeling disconnected or when our sex lives aren’t going the way we planned. With that being said, we also often forget about that there are so many noisy external barriers that can make developing a positive relationship with sex challenging, like societal norms that scream out very specific ideas of what pleasure is supposed to be.
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Whether you’re here because you want to explore relationship dynamics with a partner/partners, understand your body and sex education more, or simply want to start healthy conversations around sex – you’re in the right place.
